It has been a while for me and a lot of the people around after we started the new life that comes after finishing our studies. Hearing from here and there and after listening to a lot of people around; I figured out that there are two sorts of people, most of them waited for the life to find them and some of them were trying hard to find themselves.
Most of those people have a sense of incompleteness, as if there is a hole in their existence. They say that there is something missing from their lives. Maybe they are right? I figured out that creating a life that is right for others but is not for you then you will have this feeling. You will feel like your life is incomplete and in that case you are definitely in touch with the truth. Really there is a part of you that is not being expressed.
Finding yourself is an enlightening experience. You become self-sufficient. You can do things for others without any expectations of any return. You are no longer a needy child and you become grateful for all those things people have done for you in the past. Finding yourself is a time of developing a belief system that can carry you through the rest of your life. When you love yourself and who you are, you will enjoy both life’s pain and pleasures. How do you know you’ve found yourself? You will be able to help others find themselves. Finding yourself is not easy, but how can you be yourself if you’ve never felt connected to who you are, and you want to find whatever makes you you.
The only way to get rid of this feeling, and experience your life as full and complete, is for you to create a life that is right for you. In other words, you must be yourself.
I totally agree with you. But i believe to a certain extent that they were brought up to believe that they should do everything by the book. Few only who rebel to such notion and raise and fight through life in order to find themselves, the soul they lost or simply the core of their existence or just trying hard to find the balance in their lives.
I think that such submissivness is due to the fear of cutting off the umbilical cord it used to feed them and probably direct them later on in life.
Comment by Mu'taz — May 10, 2009 @ 8:40 am